# Onboarding walkthrough

> Onboarding takes about two minutes. We ask for the bare minimum: your name, your attachment style, and your love language ranking. Every screen is skippable. Nothing is required.

The first time you open the app, we ask a few questions. Each one is optional — if a screen feels off, tap **Skip**. Your answers are kept on your phone and used to make prompts and reflections feel more like they were written for you.

## What we ask

### 1. Your name

We use your first name in the app and in coaching responses. Your partner sees this name when you pair. Use a nickname if you prefer.

### 2. Your relationship status

Single, partnered, married, separated, complicated — pick what fits. We use it to soften the tone where it should be soft (someone working through a separation gets gentler prompts than someone in a new relationship).

### 3. Your goals

A short list of things you want from the app — better communication, working through a hard time, daily reflection, supporting a partner. This shapes which prompts you see in solo journaling.

### 4. Pain points (optional)

Things that come up in your relationship: conflict avoidance, feeling unseen, anxiety about distance. Tap any that resonate. Tap none if you don't want to share.

### 5. Love language ranking

Drag the five love languages (acts of service, physical touch, quality time, words, gifts) into your personal order. Your top language tells the app which kinds of prompts and reflections will land for you.

### 6. Attachment style ranking

Drag the four styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) into your personal order. The top style most informs the tone of the AI coaching:

- **Anxious-leaning users** get extra reassurance and acknowledgment of fear.
- **Avoidant-leaning users** get respect for independence and lower-pressure prompts.
- **Securely-leaning users** get straightforward coaching with less framing.
- **Disorganized-leaning users** get steady, simple language.

If you don't know your style, take our [free attachment style quiz](https://www.myopenheart.co/tools/attachment-style-quiz) — it takes three minutes.

## What happens after onboarding

You land on the home tab. From there you can:

- **Write your first entry** in the journal tab
- **Invite a partner** if you want couples mode now ([Couples mode](/docs/features/couples-mode))
- **Stay solo** for a while — solo mode is fully featured and free ([Solo mode](/docs/features/solo-mode))

## Changing your answers later

Everything you set during onboarding is editable in **Settings → Edit profile**. The AI re-reads your profile every time it generates a response, so updating your attachment style or love language takes effect immediately.

## Related

- [Run your first check-in](/docs/getting-started/first-checkin)
- [Solo mode](/docs/features/solo-mode)
- [Couples mode (pairing)](/docs/features/couples-mode)